It took many, many years to realize that I come across as shy. I always felt I was outgoing, but finally I saw me for who I really was. For example, I would be involved in a group conversation, agreeing or disagreeing in my thoughts and forming opinions. However, I did not always voice my opinions so everyone else saw me as unattentive and not contributing to the conversation. I was contributing, but only in my own head. Duh.
Even though I now recognize my perceived shyness, I still have to work on being more outgoing. When I am a major contributor to a conversation, I would say that I can be very funny. Or a complete jack ass, which is also funny. So it is possible for me to be more assertive.
And I do get things done. I have been chosen amongst my vast network of family to plan three of my sisters’ bachorelette parties and I think they were successful for each bride-to-be.
Moral of the story? I have a few:
1) Don’t expect others to be mind readers.
2) When they don’t read your mind, you can’t be pissed at them.
3) Being bitchy can work. Sometimes. It requires a lot of vocalization.
4) All you need is love.
That last one was just thrown in there.